I Never Knew My Husband Would Change !

By Abia Gill

A man goes through different times and phases in life, experiencing different situations that varies from one another. Good or bad, tough or easy, high or low all are in the same sphere but what actually keeps one motivated is the sense of hope, to never give up instead keep striving for the best. We see when a man is changed from his boyhood period to an adult, there are different timelines that reaches his senses, maybe he started thinking much better then he used to back in he was just a boy. The stereotype mentality that does not let break the bond of old rituals can actually create a sense of backwardness and effects tremendously on one’s mind. So we talk about when a man ties the knot and gets married, what exactly inspire him in his wife? Is it her outer beauty? Or her expertise to make the house clean and work everything for him? Is it her physique or the amount of her hair?

Mostly in South Asian region the only mission that is being enforced and implied on a girl’s shoulder is to make her husband happy even if she is not in the mood or having hormonal attacks or she is under the weather but still it’s her duty, but what about a responsible husband’s duties ask him to perform in a mandatory manner? We call it a girl’s fate or maybe ask her to get close to her husband to won his trust. I remember there was this couple my mother was doing some counseling on and she the couple few questions if they were okay to answer and be perfect about it , and eventually they were fine, so my mother asked them both if they trust and respect each other, and unfortunately the man of the house did not respect or trust a bit on his wife that was the reaction of his action that the wife was uncomfortable with him and kept on whining all the time. We as a human would want some respect from our loved ones , Let’s not be particular about a wedded couples but over here I mean every relation that an individual bears , be it siblings or parents or cousins etc.

The criteria that we have is pretty much narrow that one could smother himself to death when it comes to marriage proposals, What we ask for is some trust , respect and ofcourse the give and take trade would never end .

So what changes him over you? Is your lack of attention towards his entire life? Or maybe you are not attractive like you used to, back in the days when he was all head over heels for you. Make up your mind and stop accusing him over his ignorance just because you did not take care of him… So we never would want to call it quits cause I know it hurts like anything in this world. If you love him then show him, If you care for him then do it, What’s stopping you!!! There could be plenty of reasons that leads to some major count of divorce but what actually binds the two is the trust and peace of love to endure forever.